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We pursue our vision through direct services, education, and outreach, in conjunction with our partners, to directly benefit individuals gunplay kink choose alternative lifestyles and the communities that support them. Recommended Reading Below are a couple books that I have found useful and interesting. For a full list of recommended reading, visit my Bookshelf. Clicking on the images will take you to the Amazon product. This book did so much more just add words to my gunplay kink knowledge and experience, as I had expected. This book taught me things. This book changed the way that I think about relationships.
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Upon further examination, it is clear that we, as a society, have worked so hard to scare people about the dangers of guns that we forget that they CAN be handled safely and that, without bullets, a gun is just a hunk of metal, no more dangerous than a steel pipe. Instead, I will focus on the first two definitions presented.
I will focus on firearms and objects deed to look like firearms. I have a background in theater. And in many plays that I performed in, we used props that had been deed to be exact replicas of firearms, but only in appearance. Their inner workings had been modified, or had never existed in the first place, such that it incapable of firing a bullet. Some of them did fire blanks, however, which made a sound and sometimes a flash of light for realism.
But it was always safe. But why? If there was only negligible risk in the activity, what is the problem? And if you can acknowledge that the dangers of the weapon had been mitigated in that example, then you should be able to see how the same can be done to a functioning weapon. If before you play, you ensure that no bullets are in the gun, not by assuming so, but by checking yourself to make sure, then the object which gunplay kink formerly a weapon, is now nothing more than a complicated piece of metal that makes a little clicking noise, similar to one of these:.
A musical instrument called a "Ratchet". An unloaded gun is not dangerous. If you insist that it is, then you are most likely reacting to an emotional trigger associated with guns no pun intended. I have several of my own.
Everything that we do in BDSM has some sort of inherent risk.
If a person bumps into you during knife play, you could slice the person open. You can mitigate this risk by not using sharp knives. If you make a mistake during single-tail whipping, you could permanently damage the person, a risk that can be mitigated by carefully choosing your targets and practicing the skills to maintain precision. Gun play is no different. If these precautions are diligently observed, the risks of gun play are reduced to the level of risk involved with spanking. But there is still the emotional reaction to consider.
In fact, that reaction is exactly what makes gun play so appealing to those who use it. You may have negotiated with them, but you have likely not negotiated with everyone else at the play party.
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And for all you know, one of the people in the room was raped at gun point at some point in her life, or suffers from PTSD related to war combat. It is for this reason that guns are prohibited at most public events, a position that I agree with.
But in cases where the party or class has been specifically arranged to include gun play so that everyone who attends is aware and consents, and so long as stringent safety protocols are in place, I see no reason why this one topic should be avoided.
In fact, choosing to exclude this type of play from things like conventions increases its danger. Instead of learning how to properly handle a weapon and ensure safety, people will instead have to explore the fantasy of gun play gunplay kink their own, and they are likely to not observe the safe practices which lower the risks.
It all comes down to the same argument, whether you are talking about breath play, blood play, or gun play. Education makes everyone safer. If you choose to exclude a type of play from your educational programming, you have to live with the consequences, which may include the death of one of your members.
Guns are gunplay kink. Know the risks, do everything within reason to mitigate them, and have the consent of everyone involved. Great post! I have learned in this lifestyle that eventually the things you thought were hard limits over time become things that start to intrigue you. I do know that I have no desire to have my wife or anyone else point a gun at me… ever. I was raised with guns and taught to treat them with respect and to assume that they were loaded at all times.
If others want to play with guns, it is there life. I am a firm believer in everyones right to their pursuit of happiness… as long as it is consensual for everyone involved. A gunsmith back home, was cleaning a weapon rifle before working on it. It was checked and was suppsoedly clear.
However, there was a stary round in it taht he, a trained, experienced, professional gunsmith who worked with guns everyday, missed. A death in NYC within the last year was done properly, and with consideration for risks. The pro Domme didnt keep chesk on her subm, bound and partially hung.
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In any case, your view is simply irrational. If the weapon has been deed or modified so that it cannot be loaded or discharged, what is dangerous about it?
If I buy a gun and never buy bullets, never have them in the house, and never load it, what is dangerous about it? A rifle and certain kinds of pistols can have a bullet inside without you being able to see it, but what about a revolver?
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Some people seem to have their entire world constructed around the things they are afraid of. But a gun, for the purposes of BDSM play, is just a shape.
It is only when explosives are added to it that it becomes a weapon. Only then does it become something dangerous. Before that, it is just a piece of metal. So people like you can try to spread the scare stories all you want. But if there were never bullets in it to begin with, if a bullet has never come within ft of the gun, if it was never intended to be used to harm anyone and never treated as such.
Then I ask you again, what is dangerous about it? Anything can be done within reasonable bounds of safety with the proper precautions. Some old guy who got lazy and made a mistake is no reason to avoid the activity all together. Gunplay kink that were true, then you would never get in a car again. After all, there are over x more accidental deaths each year involving motor vehicles that firearms.
I do not know you in person and we have never spoken but I have noticed that a lot of your posts on fetlife and here on your blog are intended to spark discussion, which I appreciate. It was intended to kill, maim, and do otherwise nasty stuff to the human body.
You say that a gun only becomes a weapon once an explosive, i. If someone else feels differently, plays with one and has a great outcome, great, I hope it was a wonderful scene. On the flip side, if someone engages in gun play and has a bad outcome? Well, I guess they knew the risks, right? That is the definition of risk aware kink. How do they know you took the right precautions?
Gunplay kink if they have a trigger or PTSD involving guns? I believe at that point, having a gun scene IS infringing on the rights of others.
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If a person wants to engage in a gun scene, I believe they have the right to do so — just stay away from public venues and ensure all participants are aware of the risks. Blanks can do immense, even deadly, damage at close range. Calling it a negligible risk is foolhardy, at best. Why use a gun capable of shooting bullets at all? Why take that risk at all when it is completely avoidable and entirely do-able?